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Antonita B deJesus

December 16, 1930 - January 1, 2021

Loved by all who knew her


Service Date: January 7, 2021

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Obituaries » Antonita B deJesus

Antonita de Jesus, age 90, reunited with the love of her life, Alfredo (Fred) de Jesus on January 1, 2021. Born on December 16, 1930 in Manila, Philippines to Manuel and Consorsia Magno Bandoy, she was known and loved by all as Mommy, Mommy Tonnett, Lola Lola, Nita and Auntie. She is predeceased by her two brothers, Wilfredo and Antonio.
Tonnett graduated from High School at Victorino Mapa (Class of ’49) and Far Eastern University with a Bachelor of Science in Education, and a Minor in Nutrition. After college, she worked in the Accounting Department of the Philippine Postal Service, where she met Fred. It was here where their love for each other blossomed.
In the early 1980’s, Tonnett and Fred decided to move and immigrate to NYC – living the dream! Many of her grandchildren thought it was the coolest thing to have their grandparents live in the Big Apple! In their early years in NY, she worked for the CakeMaster Bakery on W72nd and her family recalls the days she would bring Strawberry Cheesecake as a pasalubong when she visited. At the same time, she worked at the Goldwater Memorial Hospital as their Food Service Supervisor until she “retired” in 1996.
Tonnett and Fred had a passion for seeing the world and traveled everywhere to see friends and family – all over the US, Europe, Canada, Australia, Costa Rica and the Philippines. Their love of being together and sharing new experiences is definitely held up by all of their children and grandchildren, who all endure to see every corner of the world.
Tonnett wanted to keep working through all of this – she found keeping busy was the best way to stay young. She worked as a housekeeper to a family on Park Avenue, and continued to do so until Fred had a stroke and left her to care for him full time until his passing. Tonnett found that working kept her busy and decided that once Fred passed, that she would become a home caregiver to several other families. Although she was already years past standard retirement age, she knew it was in her spirit to support and care for others, so she kept “caring” for those younger than her. She eventually “fully retired” in her mid 80’s and moved to New Jersey with her son, Renato and daughter-in-law, Amy.
Tonnett is survived by her vast network of family and friends. She had 6 wonderful children, Teresita Sylvester, Mel de Jesus (wife Carmen, died 2015), Dr.Renato Sebastian (wife Amy), Alfredo de Jesus Jr. (wife Josie), Corazon de Jesus, and Ednalita Kaufman (husband Jim). Her many grandchildren miss her dearly, Portia (husband Glen), Joyce (partner Brandon), William (partner Jacinta), Ronald, Jon, Daniel and Michael. And she will be missed even more by her great grandchildren, Ethan, Henry, Ares and Evie Carmen, who all know her as Lola Lola.
We will miss her ever present smile and warm hugs. Her generosity and graciousness will be missed and her loving demeanor forever in our hearts. Mahal Kita, Lola Lola.
Services will be held on Thursday January 7th, 2021 at 11:00a.m. at Par-Troy Funeral Home. 95 Parsippany Road, Parsippany. (973)887-3235 or visit