After Care

Funeral Aftercare Services at Par-Troy Funeral Home.

The Di Maggio Family, having experienced the loss of loved ones within their own family, can empathize with you.

When you lose someone you love, your thoughts and feelings can overwhelm you. It is one of the deepest sorrows your heart will ever experience. The first step towards regaining a sense of self is to understand the process called grief. Grief is a physical, social, emotional and psychological reaction to loss of any kind. It is necessary, natural and normal.

Everyone grieves differently. Our personality, experiences, the circumstances of the death and our relationship with the person who died, influence our grief reactions. There is no right or wrong way to grieve.

Grieving takes time. Some people may hope you are “over it” within a short period of time; however, it may take longer than anyone expected. The intense portion of the grief process does not even occur until six months after death, and controlling grief can take up to five years.  You really don’t get “over it,” you can get “through it”. This loss is always a part of your life, but it will not always feel the way it does now. Always listen to your own emotions and feelings inside yourself and go at your own pace.
Always remember your loved one’s life, everyday. It is important to say good-bye, but it is also important to acknowledge the change in your life. We have found in remembering…  “When someone you love becomes a memory, that memory becomes a treasure.” Share memories and stories about your loved one with others. Always talk about them as if they were still here. We do not stop loving or remembering someone because they have died.

Support Groups

After the loss of a loved one, dealing with grief can become overwhelming. One can feel that they no longer continue in life as they once did. A grieving person must deal not only with one’s own personal bereavement, but also with new situations and challenges that present themselves in ones life.
In an effort to handle the changes in ones live, many people find an important source of support and comfort from local support groups. (See below)
A support group is a place for you to discuss your loss and share your story. A support group provides support and encouragement in the acceptance of loss. They put family members in touch with other people who can relate to your story and together then begin the healing process. Listed below are some of the support groups in our area.

General Bereavement

Adult Bereavement. Mutual support for anyone who has experienced a significant loss. The Center for Hospice Care, Inc. 282 W. Hanover Avenue, Morristown. Call Barbara Larson (973) 429-0300 or (973) 539-6121

Grief Bereavement. Information and support to help cope with the death of a loved one, meets Wednesdays 7-8:30 p.m. at Hope House 19-21 Belmont Avenue, Dover call Melinda Strangeway (973) 361-5565 Ext. 122 or email hopehouse@aol.com

American Cancer Society Morris County Unit. Provides bereavement support, counseling referrals and literature. (973) 370-7500

Cancer Care offers free individual, family and sometimes group bereavement counseling to those who have lost a loved one. (973) 539-6121

Bereavement Group For adults who have lost a loved one to cancer. Separate groups for children and adolescents who have lost a loved one to cancer. Call St. Clare’s Hospital, Pocono Road, Denville (973) 625-6176

Rainbows, Inc Professionally-run. Peer support for children and adolescents (Kindergarten-Eighth Grade) who are grieving the loss of a parent due to death, divorce or abandonment. Parents group runs concurrently. Meets Mondays 7:15 p.m. in summer and winter, for 7-14 weeks, Mt. Tabor church, Mt. Tabor. For more information call Diane (973) 627-2134 day/evening.

Children/Adolescent Bereavement Group Professionally-run. Provides support to children/adolescents who have experienced a recent loss due to cancer. For more information call Maggie Luckerath (973) 625-6176 days.

Morris County Hospice Group and Children’s Art Therapy.
For more information call (973) 539-6121

Loss of a Child

Compassionate Friends Mutual support for parents bereaving the loss of a child. Meetings 2nd Thursday 7:30 p.m. at St. Christopher R.C. Church, 1050 Littleton Road, Parsippany. Call Lynn Bain (973) 334-5532 evening.

MIDS (Miscarriage, Infant Death, Stillbirth) Mutual support and information for bereaving parents who have experienced stillbirth, miscarriage, infant death or ectopic pregnancy. Meets 2nd Wednesday 8:00 p.m., 16 Crescent Drive, Parsippany. Call Janet Tischer (973) 263-6730 or Kathy O’Dowd-Allen (973) 625-0486

RTS Perinatal bereavement services professionally run. For families who have experienced the loss of a baby through miscarriage, ectopic pregnancy, stillbirth or newborn death. Meeting on the 3rd Wednesday, Patient Education Center, Morristown Memorial Hospital, Morristown. Call labor and delivery (973) 971-5025 day/evening.

Widow/Widower

Bereavement Support Group Professionally-run. Support and education for men and women dealing with the loss of a spouse. Meets for 8 weeks, sessions several times a year. Meets Wednesdays, 7-9 p.m., Morristown Memorial Hospital, Madison Avenue, Morristown. Call Kathy Davies or Lea Morgan 973-971-5402 days.

Spouse Bereavement Support Group Professionally-run. Support to persons suffering from the loss of their spouse. Loss can be recently or some time ago. Opportunity to share experiences, difficulties, and successes in coping. Meets 1st and 3rd Thursdays 6:30-8 p.m., The Presbyterian Church of Morris Plains, 400 Speedwell Avenue, Morris Plains. Call Lucille (973) 539-3481 ext., 15.

Widowed Persons Service Professionally-run. Support, education and interaction for widows and widowers of all ages. Meets 3rd Sunday, 1:30-3:30 p.m., Morristown Memorial Hospital, Auditorium A, 100 Madison Avenue, Morristown. Before attending call 1-800-AHS-9580 day/eve.; information only call Diane Vezzuto (973) 971-7103.

Aids (Acquired Immunodeficiency Syndrome)

The Promise Professionally-run. Emotional support for families and friends of persons with AIDS, or for those who have lost a loved one to AIDS. Meets Mondays (except holidays) 7:00 p.m. Morristown area. Call for more information (973) 539-2993.

St. Barnabas Medical Center Bereavement Support Group. An eight-session group for individuals and families who have lost a loved one in the previous year. Both day and evening groups are offered, and led by a certified grief counselor. For more information call (973) 322-5015

Suicide

Survivors of Suicide Mutual support and discussion for people who have had someone close to them commit suicide. Meets 2nd and 4th Wednesday 7:30-9:00p.m. Grace Episcopal Church, Madison. Call Jane Cole (973) 786-5178

S.O.L.E.S. Survivors of Law Enforcement Suicide.

Affiliated with Tears of A Cop This organization provides support and healing for the grieving survivors of officers who commit suicide. You can reach SOLES, its founder Teresa Tate and obtain its newsletter at: SOLES, 2708 SW 48th Terrace, Cape Coral, Florida 33914. (941) 541-1150 or email: ASKT8@aol.com

Death of a Pet

Animal Bereavement Center. Individual and group support. Consultation and educational programs Call (973) 761-4925

Other Useful Information

New Jersey Self-Help Group Clearing House Self-help group directory for references to Support groups. Call (800) 367-6274 or (973) 989-1122

Other Links

www.griefnet.org
www. aarp.org
www.healingloss.com

The Di Maggio Family also offers a Resource library consisting of Books, CD’s, Cassettes and Video Tapes. (973) 887-3235